Let’s Talk: Self Care


Let me start off by first saying, if you are reading this, thank you! Whether it is curiosity or support, or a little bit of both, I appreciate it.

As of late, I have been on a righteous path to improve the ways that I take care of myself. How many people really indulge in self care? It’s always one of those things where you want to, but never seem to find time… ever.

Being busy is great, but I got to a point where I was too busy and neglecting myself. When I was in college, my priorities were always school and work, and when I got out of school, my priorities became work and my social life and I hardly ever made time for myself.

This past winter, I took some time to slow down, canceled a few events on my calendar, and focused on myself. I’m transitioning into a great “self care” routine, and a lot of these tips and tricks have worked out well for me. But trust me… I’m still trying to improve!

1. Me Time.

This goes without saying but it’s HUGE! I love to schedule everything… hang outs, dinners, dates, etc. My calendar is my go to. Because I’m constantly on the go, I had to start to schedule “Me Time” for myself either every day or at least 3x a week. During this time, I am able to do the things I wouldn’t normally give myself time to do. I have time to discover a ton of new shows, take a long shower, throw on a face mask, spent time creating playlists, read, or go shopping by myself. It doesn’t matter what I am doing, as long as I am able to disconnect from the stresses of daily life and do something that I enjoy.

** To my commuters: I do a 3 hour commute round trip every day and I found it helpful to sometimes schedule my “me time” during my commute. Train rides are a great place to catch up on shows you’ve been dying to watch!

2.  Gym Time.

Alright well this one… I’m trying really hard to stick with this one. Not only does exercise come with great health benefits, it also helps me stay centered, focused, and calm. I feel so great after I get a work out in and I’m trying to stick to 3x a week. I’ve found it helpful to go to the gym with a buddy. It’s a great way to keep yourself accountable to actually go, and push yourself to your hardest when you’re there.

3. Sleep.

I’m working on this one, BIG TIME. This is probably where I have the most room to improve. I sleep around 5 hours a night if I’m lucky, since I wake up extremely early for work. For the days that I do get a full 8 hours (or more), I’m on the top of my game.

4. It’s okay to say NO.

It took me a while to come to terms with this one. I’m someone who says yes to everything…mostly because I want to be a part of everything. FOMO is real, and I have it big time. But, on days when I’m extremely tired, stressed out, and not in the mood, I have learned to shoot a respectful “thanks but no thanks”.

5. Prioritize your passions and hobbies.

Coming out of college was hard for me, because I realized that the entire time I was in school, I had given up on interests outside of that world. I had to work hard to find hobbies and passions, things that make me happy outside of work, my family, and my friends.

I found that for me, blogging is a huge release of a lot of pent up energy I build throughout the day. When I was younger, I used to enjoy writing, and was pretty serious about my tumblr blog for a while. I somehow let go of that passion when life got busy, but it has been great to revisit it and introduce it to my life now.

Some other passions I have rediscovered are reading, hiking, finding new shows and movies (I’ve gotten through 8 seasons of Game Of Thrones and a lot of the MCU movies this year alone!), listening to some great podcasts, and adult coloring (I wish so hard I could draw…this is the closest I get). All of these are minor things, but bring me great joy and are a huge part of my self care.

6. Vacations, Staycations… Just take a break!

The reason I started this blog originally was to chronicle my travel journeys. To me, traveling is a big part of my self care because it allows me to get away from the hustle and bustle of daily life and embrace a new adventure. When I travel, I forget about the things I’m doing back home… for those days, I dive head first into knowing more about where I am. The more I discover of the world, the easier it is to feel connected to it.

That’s all from me, but I’m sure I’ll be adding to this list. I’m curious to see if anyone else has some tips and tricks on self care that is a part of your life and routine…leave a comment down below!

Author: Sherise DSilva

Movies, Travel, Lifestyle, Food, Books and everything else in between.

One thought on “Let’s Talk: Self Care”

  1. Dear Sherise, (sounds like “Cherish” which I think is beautiful). Self-help and self-love goes hand in hand. I am trying to help/love myself more now than previously. With the recent deaths of both my mother and my partner both within the space of 6 months apart; Love MUST begin “again” with me. Your prioritizing of your life is excellent and most praiseworthy. Loving others as individual expressions of the Love, Light, and Life of God is where I am now at. Life is less about me, and ALL about Him. But, we each will find for ourselves how Life best “works”. I see that, by way of “followers”, you are fairly new at blogging too. Please, give me time to read more of your blog and I may “follow” you too! Also, if inclined, check out my own blog as well. Blessings to you and yours. Timothy


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